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Sugar For My Coffee -- Where Are All the REAL Gentlemen's Clubs
November 10, 2009

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Dated, November 10, 2009

*Sugar For My Coffee Mission*
To journey each visit into The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe. While there, through cyberspace technology and the click of a mouse, we can enjoy a cup of coffee together as we get to know some of the most influential mentors of relationships and life empowerment of our time. Our presence together becomes, "Sugar For My Coffee".

Published by Stan Leffew

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  • Monthly Mentor - The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe
  • Perspective - Where Are All the REAL Gentlemen's Clubs
  • Journey With Jessica - Inspirational Conference


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Monthly Mentor - The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe

Welcome to the segment I like to call, Sugar For My Coffee!

Here we discover the individuals with whom this author would be most honored to sit across from and enjoy a coffee break. I close all my writings with this entrance into The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe to introduce my readers to another Success Mentor for life empowerment. That person's presence at the table would be Sugar For My Coffee!

He said, "People wake up one day find themselves nowhere near where they envisioned themselves. Every….choice….matters. You are becoming who you one day will be. Are you making wise choices today to ensure that you will become who you want to be tomorrow?

Our guest today in the Coffee Shop: Chris Larsen

Chris Larsen got his BA from Baylor University in 1992 and went on to get his MDiv. from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in 1997.

Chris has served as a youth minister in various churches from 1988 to 1994 and as interim Baptist Student Ministries Director at Dallas Baptist University from 1996 to 1997.

If you find your soul thirsty, Chris has a message that causes you to focus on what your soul craves.

This is a little different approach for me this month in the Coffee Shop of Make-Believe. You see, Chris and I have shared many a coffee break because he is my Brother-in-Law. He was the minister who performed the wedding ceremony for me and my wife.

Those of you who are familiar with "Sugar For My Coffee" know that you can join us for this coffee break any time you like. Simply grab a cup of coffee, pull up a chair and get to know our guest. Through cyberspace technology and the click of a mouse, go now and get to know Chris Larsen

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Did someone say, "Pass The Sugar, Please"?

Couples Corner -

Where Are All the REAL Gentlemen's Clubs

"Hey Stan, me and some of the other guys are going to a Gentlemen's Club and want you to come along. Just note, saying no is not an acceptable response."

Such were the ramblings of a young man who thought I, like a lot of other men around us on that same work project, would jump at the chance for this kind of night out with the boys.

Knowing he wasn't familiar with my message that teaches all about being a man in a playboy world, I just laughed at him, said no thanks, and then politely directed him to my website. Although he never asked again, I couldn't just let his question go.

So I went there!

No, not the Gentlemen's Club!

I went to that place in my mind that attempts to make sense of a commonly accepted term that has no rational explanation for why it is so commonly accepted.

Gentlemen's Club!

When I think of the word "gentlemen", I never associate it with a smoke-filled room full of men drowning in a sea of flesh, being enticed to accept a cheap imitation for the gift of human sexuality.

The word GENTLEMEN to me is a word about being noble and respectful. It speaks of one who gives honor and bears the trademark of not demeaning in value the worth of another.

"Where are the REAL Gentlemen's Clubs," I asked myself!

Wouldn't it be great to have a club where REAL men go to:

  • Encourage each other to see women as more than full-of-brandy-eye-candy and toys-for-boys
  • Inspire one another to be men of commitment and live out their sexuality for LEG-A-CY, not how much LEG-I-SEE
  • Better follow the longing of the heart to be wanted for a lifetime of nights and not just a night of a lifetime
  • Remind one another that sex is LESS ABOUT RELEASE and MORE ABOUT EMBRACE
  • Help each other remember that SMUT spelled backwards is TUMS
  • Grow in understanding that it is called PLAYBOY because it appeals to men who still play BOY with adolescent attitudes about women as sex objects
  • Challenge each other with the reality that we are DESIGNED FOR DESIRE, but we also DESIRE FOR DESIGN
  • Help each other see that humanity's greatest needs are relational and spiritual – NOT SEXUAL
  • Instruct one another in the truth about how 90% of couple-relating takes place OUTSIDE THE BEDROOM
  • Remind one another that the emptiest people are those living their lives for the moment and missing the lifetime

Now, that's the type of Gentlemen's Club this loving husband and father would be most happy to go to with the guys. I think guys could learn a lot about being a man in this type of environment. How about it men, care to come along?

©Copyright advice-for-lifetime-relationships
by Stanley J. Leffew

Here is a brand new video on all this entitled "Being a Man in a Playboy World."

Journey With Jessica – Inspirational Conference

Hi again everyone!

This week I am privileged to get to participate with a great group of ladies who inspire me by going to a great conference. If you have never been to a ladies event that will move all your emotions and fuel your spirit, check this one out.

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