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Sugar For My Coffee -- Declare Your Independence
July 01, 2007

Here is your latest issue of Sugar For My Coffee

Dated, July 2007

*Sugar For My Coffee Mission*
To journey each month into The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe. While there, through cyberspace technology and the click of a mouse, we can enjoy a cup of coffee together as we get to know some of the most influential mentors of relationships and life empowerment of our time. Our presence together becomes, "Sugar For My Coffee".

Published by Stan Leffew

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  • Sponsor - "Beauty Also Wears Clothes"
  • Monthly Mentor - The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe
  • Perspective - Declare Your Independence
  • Journey With Jessica - How Hot Is Too Hot

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Before we get down to business, I have a gift I would like to give each of you for subscribing to "Sugar For My Coffee." It is my way of saying thanks to you for sharing your time and some of your life with me.

I have a special e-book of ALL STARS from the "Sugar For My Coffee" series that I now offer my newsletter subscribers. If you haven't downloaded a copy for yourself, feel free to do so now by clicking this link to the Coffee Shop of Make-Believe All-Stars

Couples Corner - Declare Your Independence

This is the area of our newsletter where we grow in our life and relationship enrichment.

Declare Your Independence

It is July, and as you know, July 4th is the celebration of Independence Day here in the United States. With this in mind, I wanted to make this issue about breaking the chains that bind us and declaring our own independence.

What do I mean?

Have you ever been around people who just can't seem to think about anything that originates above the waist? I call it gutter thinking. They turn every conversation into a sensual conversation.

Another example is the way so many men struggle against the influences and pull of the magazine racks of scantily clad women. They just can't seem to walk by without feeling and giving in to the tug.

These are only a couple examples of the entrapment to lust and desire that dominates our world.

People come back to my message over and over again. Many use the information I share in my ebooks and on my site for mind renewal. Because of this, I decided to post a few of the quotes found in the message of my ebooks and website here for easy access.

Hope you find them useful,


Here you go!

  • We have made sex more about recreation than about relationship and more and more are getting caught in the web of deception that chasing desire creates.

  • It is better to be wanted for a lifetime of nights and not just a night of a lifetime.

  • "Turning-on" may be elevated over and over again in the world around us, but "tuning-in" is where it is really at.

  • Women are more than full-of-brandy eye candy and toys-for-boys and should be valued as pillars in the community instead of pillows for the community.

  • What we lead with is what we are valued for. If we lead with the body, we are valued for the body. If we lead with the mind, we are valued for the mind. If we lead with the spirit, we are valued for the spirit. What do you want to be remembered for?

  • Relationships that sizzle are established on the lifetime and celebrated with the nighttime. Getting this backwards is what throws many couples off and one reason why so many relationships fizzle.

  • We have been seduced by an over-emphasis on the bedroom and the body.

  • One of the greatest deceptions of our time has been embracing the belief that the nighttime is the ultimate goal of relationship. The ultimate goal of relationship is the lifetime. Until we once again regain this understanding and make lifetime the pursuit in relationships we will continue this vicious cycle of recycling.

  • In too many minds the URGE has replaced the MERGE in importance.

  • Many have made sex more about recreation than relationship and recreation sex may be better spelled - WRECK creation.

  • We are making sex more about passion than promise and drowning in a sea of recreational sex.

©Copyright 2007 advice-for-lifetime-relationships
by Stanley J. Leffew

Journey With Jessica – How Hot Is Too Hot?

Hi again everyone!

I came across a quote recently that impacted me when I read it. It stated,

"It is hard to speak to your hearts when all I see is your parts."

It was the confession of a Youth Pastor speaking about the style of dress young ladies embrace these days.

The quote came from a book I have added to the library of influence we are developing for our children as they grow. The book is titled, "Sexy Girls - How Hot Is Too Hot?"

It really helps clarify that how we women dress is like marketing and image consulting. How we dress tells the world who we think we are. This is a must read for all of us. If you can't find it in your local bookstore, I even found a website about it. Go to this link and discover How Hot Is Too Hot?

SPONSOR: Ladies, how would you like to become the kind of woman than men adore and never want to leave? If you find you are able to attract a relationship but sometimes struggle keeping it, find out how you can become the kind of woman men adore.

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