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Sugar For My Coffee -- The Next Time You JUMP into Bed with Someone, Take Along a Parachute
July 21, 2009

Here is your latest issue of Sugar For My Coffee

Dated, July 22, 2009

*Sugar For My Coffee Mission*
To journey each visit into The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe. While there, through cyberspace technology and the click of a mouse, we can enjoy a cup of coffee together as we get to know some of the most influential mentors of relationships and life empowerment of our time. Our presence together becomes, "Sugar For My Coffee".

Published by Stan Leffew

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  • Monthly Mentor - The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe
  • Perspective - The Next Time You JUMP into Bed with Someone, Take Along a Parachute
  • Journey With Jessica - Privileged Parents

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Monthly Mentor - The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe

Welcome to the segment I like to call, Sugar For My Coffee!

Here we discover the individuals with whom this author would be most honored to sit across from and enjoy a coffee break. I close all my writings with this entrance into The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe to introduce my readers to another Success Mentor for life empowerment. That person's presence at the table would be Sugar For My Coffee!

She said, "I am dedicated to creating life-changing resources that will:

  • guide women to discover healthy sexuality and spirituality
  • strengthen women who are weathering the storms of extramarital or pre-marital temptations
  • foster deeper levels of intimacy between husbands and wives
  • provide parents with the confidence, courage, and practical wisdom to engage in creative conversations about sexual integrity with their young children"

Our guest today in the Coffee Shop: Shannon Ethridge

Shannon Ethridge is a million-copy best-selling author and internationally-sought after conference speaker. She has been featured on the cover of Today’s Christian Woman magazine and is a frequent guest on many shows, including MSNBC’s Today Show, The 700 Club, and Life Today.

Her books include the Every Woman’s Battle series, Every Woman's Marriage, and The Sexually Confident Wife. She holds a master’s degree in counseling & human relations from Liberty University.

If you are passionate about getting your love life right, it is my pleasure to introduce you to Shannon Ethridge. Shannon has been one of the best voices going in the world for over a decade in the area of relationship enrichment, and her insight can help you find the sweet spot your own relationship craves.

I may never be blessed to really share a coffee break with Shannon Ethridge, but in The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe we can all have this special treat. Right?

Those of you who are familiar with "Sugar For My Coffee" know that you can join us for this coffee break any time you like. Simply grab a cup of coffee, pull up a chair and get to know our guest. Through cyberspace technology and the click of a mouse, go now and get to know Shannon Ethridge

For more about me visit here.

Did someone say, "Pass The Sugar, Please"?

Couples Corner - The Next Time You JUMP into Bed With Someone, Take Along a Parachute

This is the area of our newsletter where we grow in our life and relationship enrichment.

The Next Time You JUMP into Bed with Someone,
Take Along a Parachute!

You ever notice how skydiving seems to come up on peoples list of things they want to do before they die? You saw this in the movie "Bucket List", as the main characters included it in their list of things they just had to do before they "kicked the bucket." Before long in the movie, you see them experiencing the thrill of tandem skydiving

Those of you who have already embarked on this journey yourself can identify with what I am saying. For those of you who have not, let me tell you a little bit about what tandem skydiving is all about, and along the way share a secret to great relationships.

Some realities of tandem skydiving you may be curious to know:

  • You only have to have about 20 minutes of instruction prior to going up
  • You experience anticipation from a 15-20 minute flight to reach ideal attitude
  • You will be jumping from heights around 13,000 feet
  • You will get to enjoy around 3-minutes of free-fall time
  • After the parachute opens you get to float around in the air and see visuals you will never see from the ground

Oh, yeah! One more thing about tandem skydiving!


Yes, you are reading that correctly! The person wearing the parachute is a trained instructor, usually with hundreds of jumps under their belt. They wear the parachute and pull the release at the proper time.

So, how are you kept from getting permanent grass stains on the inside of your spleen?


The instructor will attach his/her parachute to the safety harness you're wearing. By doing so, you don’t get to see if the earth's core is habitable for a human body at speeds up to 120 mph.

Now, you may be wondering; what does this have to do with taking along a parachute the next time I jump into bed with someone, and just what is that secret to a great relationship you mentioned?

Let me ask you a question. If you are going tandem skydiving, what is more important for you in the scenario described above, RELEASE or EMBRACE?

For those who said RELEASE, meet your new internal bosom buddy- EARTH!

A successful tandem sky dive is less about release and more about embrace. Without the instructor's embrace through your harness attachment, the release cord only benefits the instructor. Without EMBRACE, you might as well prepare yourself for a very hard fall.

Human sexuality is just like that!

The human body's sex drive is powerful on purpose. It is designed to pull couples together for the establishment of a family and as PART of the foundation of intimacy for that couple in marriage embrace. The sex drive, by design, is really less about RELEASE and more about EMBRACE. Let me state this again in case you missed it!

The sex drive, by design, is really

Culturally, we have elevated RELEASE and put down EMBRACE. Now listen close, because here is that secret to great relationships you've been waiting for.

What we ELEVATE becomes what we CELEBRATE,
and what we PUT DOWN becomes what we KICK AROUND.

It used to be that life was about marriage and family principles. In other words, it was about "EMBRACE"! Familial relationship building principles for living was the norm, and great value was placed on marriage and family life.

Then came The Beatles, Elvis, Rock-and-Roll and yes, Hugh Hefner and Playboy. Gradually our society began to shift its thinking and embrace a mindset for "RELEASE" over "EMBRACE." The sexual revolution stepped onto the horizon and became the focus, and sadly, to our demise I might add, "EMBRACE" has been placed on the shelf and even mocked and ridiculed.

For over sixty years now we have been a world dominated with a fascination for "RELEASE". Playboy, Penthouse, strip clubs, porn movies, Girls Gone Wild, Spring Break, the music industry lyrics, etc. all display this same "RELEASE" mentality.

What we have lost in the process is EMBRACE. Culture is selling us the sizzle of relationships but stealing from us the soul of relationships. We have lost our value of LEG-A-CY in exchange for how much LEG-I-SEE.

So, the next time you consider jumping into bed with someone for sex, take along a parachute. It's a great way to help you remember that sex is less about RELEASE and more about EMBRACE.

You can ignore my words and go ahead and jump if you want too, but I would strongly advise you to make sure your harness attachment isn't being overlooked. This advice might just save you from one of life's hardest falls.

©Copyright advice-for-lifetime-relationships
by Stanley J. Leffew

Journey With Jessica – Privileged Parents

Hi again everyone!

This week I am one of the privileged parents who gets to volunteer in two different and special camps for our children. One of them is a camp for our daughter called, "Princess with a Purpose." The other one is a camp for our son called, "Warrior Prince Academy".

Each of these camps provide great life skill insight for our children.

As I embark on this journey this week, I want to applaud parents everywhere who provide so many volunteer hours for the benefit of your children by revisiting an article I wrote several years back called, "Props to Parents". Thank you, parents, for all you do in, and for, your kids lives. Visit here to read Props to Parents!

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