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Sugar For My Coffee, Special Issue -- A Valentine's Day To Remember
February 14, 2006

Here is your latest issue of Sugar For My Coffee

Dated February 2006
Special Valentine's Day Issue

How To Be Wanted For a Lifetime of Nights
and Not Just a Night of a Lifetime

Find out for yourself why the popular trend of chasing desire and night of a lifetime relationships fails to satisfy the longing of the heart for love, companionship, oneness, relationship fulfillment and intimacy.

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*Sugar For My Coffee Mission*
To journey each month into The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe. While there, through cyberspace technology and the click of a mouse, we can enjoy a cup of coffee together as we get to know some of the most influential mentors of relationships and life empowerment of our time. Our presence together becomes, "Sugar For My Coffee".
Published by Stan Leffew

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  • Monthly Mentor - The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe
  • Perspective - When Howard Met Sirius
  • Journey With Jessica - A Velentine's Day To Remember
  • Couples Corner - The Zipper And The Zapper

Monthly Mentor - The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe

Welcome to the segment I like to call, Sugar For My Coffee! Here we discover the individuals with whom this author would be most honored to sit across from and enjoy a coffee break.

I close all my writings with this entrance into The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe to introduce my readers to another Success Mentor for life empowerment. That person’s presence at the table would be Sugar For My Coffee!

He said, "Did you know ... that you as a woman, by virtue of your femininity, have in your hands the delicious power to make a man fall in love with you, influence a man to your way of thinking, bring him to his knees, make him want to spend his life with you -- and want to fulfill your every desire?"

We will meet our guest in a moment. Before we do, I need to ask some questions.

Ladies, you ever catch yourself wondering how much you really know about the man in your life?

You ever find yourself wishing you knew what to do to become the woman that men love and will never leave?

Ladies, you will take on so much more personal value in the eyes of your man when you find out the steps to becoming the kind of woman that men adore.

This is just one of the many important messages taught by today's guest of The Coffee Shop of Make-Believe.

Today's coffee break guest: Bob Grant, L.P.C.

Bob Grant has been a Licensed Professional Counselor, therapist, and relationship coach for 16 years. He is called The Relationship Doctor because he has saved dozens of relationships/marriages from disaster, dissolution -- and just plain boredom. People all around the world have discovered his prescription for finding love, keeping passion alive, and reigniting relationships that have lost their spark.

Those of you who are familiar with this segment of my work know that you can join us for this coffee break any time you wish. You only have to grab a cup of coffee, pull up a seat at the table and get to know our guest. You can get to know Bob Grant by visiting the following Website on the INTERNET.

Get to know Bob Grant and discover how you can become the kind of woman that men adore.
For more about me visit here.

Did someone say, "Pass The Sugar, Please"?

Perspective - When Howard Met Sirius

This is the area of our newsletter where we try to take perspective of current events.

A new window will open so you can return here with ease, so please enjoy the article When Howard Met Sirius

Journey With Jessica – A Valentine's Day To Remember

This segment helps us add a bit of estrogen to the testosterone mix of our newsletter.

Hi everyone! Stan here! Estrogen will have to wait until next time.

This section, this issue, should be titled, Jessica's Journey instead of Journey With Jessica. I will be sharing with you the journey Jessica will have for Valentine's Day. Shhhhhhhh, she doesn't know!

Jessica's Valentine's Day Journey

I got together with a friend from church and together we have set this up for our wives.

At exactly 9:00 am Valentine's Day, my wife will meet his wife at Starbucks. My wife will carry with her an envelope containing three things that she cannot open until they meet.

The envelope contains:

  • A Happy Valentine's Day note from us
  • Two Starbucks gift certificates
  • A picture of the two of us guys

You would have got a kick out of watching us two grown men get into the little photo booth in the mall and close the curtain for this picture. Yes, people were watching and snickering. But, this picture was important! It will be the passport our wives use during the events of the day.

After opening the envelope, they must proceed to the counter, show the picture and ask,

Have you seen these two men?

This will cue someone behind the counter to hand them a large heart-shaped candy box of chocolates. The box will also contain envelopes 2 - 4 that they must open in sequence when prompted.

The note in envelope one tells them to open envelope two as soon as they receive the heart.

Envelope two contains two Spa Gift Certificates and their appointment time from 10:00 - 1:00 for this pampering. They cannot open envelope three until after their spa treatment.

Between 12:30 & 1:00, they must open envelope three that contains a $50.00 gift certificate to The Cheesecake Factory for lunch.

As they enter the restaurant, they have to again show the picture and ask,

Have you seen these two men?

They will be seated and while they eat the host/hostess will bring them each a dozen roses that we earlier in the day delivered and set up with the host/hostess.

After finishing their meal they can open envelope number four.

This envelope lets them enjoy an afternoon of shopping with the gift cards inside and directs them to meet back up with us at 5:00 pm where the day began.

At 5:00, we will be dressed up and waiting for them out front of Starbucks, each of us holding another dozen roses. We will then take a carriage ride to the restaurant we reserved for our evening meal.

This will be the events of our day. Pray that it all goes off without a hitch and that it will be a Valentine's Day to remember.

Happy Valentine's Day! Until next time,


COUPLES CORNER – The Zipper And The Zapper

In this segment, we will share timely thoughts and articles on relationship building.

The Zipper And The Zapper

Ah, the crisp, fresh gentle night air.

How well I remember those childhood nights of running across grassy meadows chasing lightening bugs.

Inevitably, I couldn't stop those nightly interruptions of my playful solitude.


Followed again by,


Smoke, a little flame, and the aroma of fried bugs filtering through the air. I remember thinking, "why don't they just stop flying into those crazy things?"

You ever spend any time watching those Bug Zappers with ultraviolet lights that bugs just can't resist?

Do you know that when it comes to the body, relationships and sex, they speak volumes?

I was again reminded of all this while watching the movie, "A Bugs Life" with my four-year old. You may remember the scene. There's a camping trailer in the distance with a light on the front porch as two bugs fly in the night conversing in dialogue.

Bug one alarmingly screams at bug two: "No! Larry, no! Don't look at the light!"

Bug two states in slow motion: "I c-a-n'-t h-e-l-p i-t, i-t'-s s-o b-e-a-u-t-i-f-u-l."


I did some research on Bug Zappers. Care to know what I found out and why, just like the bug, many of you who haven't learned to control the zipper are getting burned by the zapper?

A Bug Zapper, more formally known as an electronic insect-control system, lures bugs into it and kills them with electricity. They have fluorescent light bulbs, usually of mercury, neon or ultraviolet (black light). Two wire meshes surround the light bulb and are electrified with a transformer to kill the insects.

It works because many insects see ultraviolet light better than visible light. They are more attracted to it, because the flower patterns that attract insects are revealed in ultraviolet light.

Isn't that interesting?

The Zapper appeals to a bugs natural instinct and appetite, makes them feel that wrong is right, and then lures the bug into pain and misery by a fire that burns instead of a fire that warms.

Where am I going with this?

We don't talk about it much these days, but when it comes to the body, relationships and sex, there is a fire that warms and a fire that burns.

Just like the bug being lured to the Zapper, many are being lured by their natural instinct, confused by the misinformation that abounds and burned by the heat.

You see, when it comes to sex and relationships, you need to know some things:

  • We are being seduced by an over-emphasis on the bedroom and the body
  • The heart longs to be wanted for a lifetime of nights and not just a night of a lifetime
  • Being full-of-brandy-eye-candy and toys-for-boys is not where women get their value
  • When it comes to the body and relationships, "tuning in" will rock your world far more than "turning on" every time
  • You can chase desire if you wish, but the real longing of the heart is for love, companionship, oneness and intimacy
  • Living for the moment can cause you to miss the lifetime
  • Your sexual past does affect your relationship future
  • The current trend of making sex more about recreation than relationship is empty and leaves scars
  • The "Master Designer" of our bodies has more in mind for sex than downloading 3 x 5 images into computer screens, marketing images in glossy pages of magazines, "Girls Gone Wild" videos and "Spring Break" parties

Without naming names, recent history has shown us many people of fame and notoriety who have gotten zzzzzzzzzaaappped.

Maybe reading this will help you not be among them.

If you can get a grasp on these things, you will be on your way to better relationships and better sex. But if you are blind to these things, you could be next in line to be burned by the heat.

When you learn to control the zipper, you'll have better control of the zapper.

©Copyright 2006 advice-for-lifetime-relationships
by Stanley J. Leffew

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