I Learned Everything I Need
to Know About Love, Sex and Relationships at an Elvis Concert

Here are some life lessons on love, sex and relationships I discovered at my first Elvis concert.

The Charmer

I sat there in disbelief as the room came alive with excitement, and in a "standing room only" crowd, electricity was in the air as he took center stage.

I had never been to an Elvis concert before. Although his music and unmistakable voice had illuminated the solitude of our home for many years, I had never seen a live performance.

The costume he wore seemed to capture the radiance of the lights and bounce their effects all around the room. Anticipation was so thick in the air you could almost cut through it with a knife, and the screams of adoring fans was deafening. In this atmosphere, I came face-to-face with one of life's greatest lessons on love, sex and relationships. Continue reading and I'll show you what I mean.

He sang old familiar tunes like "Are You Lonesome Tonight," "All Shook Up," "Blue Suede Shoes," and "I Can't Help Falling in Love with You". His antics on stage left everyone in the audience spellbound and exhausted.

That's when it happened!

He took his sweaty scarf, wiped even more sweat off his stage-lit brow, and in mid-song tossed it into the audience.

Now, imagine this in slow motion with me. The scarf slowly unravels as it floats through the air. The air blowing in the building causes it to rise and carry across rows of fans from all ages and walks of life. As it moves through the air, for what seems an eternity, the room falls silently captivated in the moment. As the neck scarf seems to extend itself in mid-air, the effects of the stage lights cause shadows to dance across the faces watching intently with amusement.

I remembered seeing this many times at his concerts on TV. The audience always fell all over each other trying to get the neck kerchief. Fights would even ensue as people anywhere near the falling kerchief flocked to capture their prize of the night. The sweat of Elvis became the sweet of Elvis to anyone going home with this prize in their possession.

With all this in mind, imagine the surprise I felt when everyone in the building moved out of the way and let the kerchief hit the floor. Not a single person was drawn towards it, even worse, they moved away to give it plenty of room to drop onto the floor.

For just a moment, it seemed as if someone had let the air out of the room like one would a balloon, and a pause in his performance on stage seemed to reflect a crush to the old ego.

He wasn't sick, he looked bathed, seemed to have good hygiene, and the scarf he tossed appeared to be clean and fresh.

So, what was the problem?

The answer is simple!

The Cheap Imitation

The man on stage was an Elvis IMPERSONATOR, and people everywhere know the difference between A CHEAP IMITATION AND THE REAL THING.

What, you may be wondering, does this have to do with a great lesson on love, sex and relationships?

You ever notice how the voice of culture around us seems to have us so quick to accept the cheap imitation when it comes to love, sex and relationships?

• Heart hungry for DESIGN, we feed on DESIRE
• We make our sexuality more about how much LEG-I-SEE than about LEG-A-CY
• We buy in to the sizzle of relationships but sell out the soul of relationships
• The HEAT UNDER OUR SHEETS seems more important than the HEART UNDER OUR SHIRTS
• We make relationships more about "TURNING ON" than "TUNING IN"
• We devote more energy to the "URGE" than we do the "MERGE"

CHEAP IMITATIONS!

Where has our love affair with marriage and family life gone?

Why do we value a night of a lifetime more than we do a lifetime of nights?

Why is our focus more about passion and pleasure than promise and permanence?

Why are people so quick to toss away legacy?

Why has sex become something many embellish instead of something they relish?

The definition of embellish is: a fictitious touch added to a factual account, to add adornment, to add beauty, to increase interests by adding details

People who relish sex find pleasure in its purpose, while those who embellish sex find purpose in its pleasure. People who embellish sex are easy to spot. They are those you see:

• Lusting for pornographic pleasures
• Building shrines and/or business empires devoted to sexual pleasure
• Lost in pixel imagery enticements projected by magazines, movies and/or the Internet
• Captivated by skin flicks and shock-jock programming
• Mesmerized by music lyrics full of vulgarity and music videos empty of decency
• Fueling their thirst for "skin-is-in" at bottle-soaked strip clubs and Spring Break beaches
• Seeking out night clubs, peep shows and vacation spots that delight in hedonism

CHEAP IMITATIONS!

The Challenge

When it comes to sex and relationships, our world is full of Elvis impersonators who are just imitations of the real thing. For there to be an imitation, though, there also has to be the "real," and it is the "real" that brings so much value to the imitation.

So, when it comes to love, sex and relationships, consider something with me. If so much attention is given to the imitation, how much greater must the "real" thing be?

Think about something else with me!

I don't mean to step on your blue suede shoes, but are you all shook up and lonesome tonight because you're wallowing around on the floor of life embellishing over a sweaty and cheap imitation that is getting you laid but not loved, lots of LEG but no LEG-A-CY, DESIRE but no DESIGN, and a head filled with sex but a heart that is empty?

In case you haven't noticed, when it comes to love, sex and relationships, it is easier to fool our hormones than it is to fool our hearts. Amazing thing about the heart …… it tends to know a cheap imitation when it sees one.

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by Stanley J. Leffew
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