SEX - Recreation or Relationship?

Sex, a HEAT CONNECTION, now you're getting to what I came to this site for!

HEAT seems to be the biggest driving force in the world today. Our culture seems to have a lead-with-the-body focus when it comes to relationship building.

Sit down for any length of time before a TV set and you will have to filter through numerous images promoting pornography and "Night of a Lifetime" relationships. Late night TV bombards our minds with Spring Break and Girls Gone Wild images and "Porn" is among the most searched topics on the Internet.

We have a question we like to ask as a challenge to those who seem to make sex more about recreation than relationship today.

Is the heartbeat of relationships
found more in "Being Wanted for a Night of a Lifetime"
or in "Being Wanted for a Lifetime of Nights"?

Having the right perspective on sex is one of the keys to depth and substance in our relationships and in our lives.

The theme and focus of this entire site has been to show how being "Wanted for a Lifetime of Nights" is deeper and more meaningful than just being "Wanted for a Night of a Lifetime".

Up to this point we have covered A Heart Connection, A Home Connection and A Holy Connection of The FOUR-H FORMULA.

What role does our fourth H, "Heat Connection" (Sex), play in The FOUR-H FORMULA we cover on this site and in our e-book?

Come along and let's see!


Interesting, isn't it, that I should dare not place the HEAT Connection at the top of the list in The Four-H Formula?

I've done this on purpose!

"HEAT" should be the RESULT OF relationship and not the REASON FOR relationship.

When it comes to relationships today, more often than not, it seems that the primary focus of our culture is HEAT, or sex. The music we listen to sings about it. The performers we watch exude it. The programs we watch on TV demonstrate it. Our school systems are teaching it.

The physical seems to dominate our thoughts and actions. No wonder so many people struggle with pornography and these type addictions today.

Just look at the shows that have jumped to the top of the ratings in popularity on TV.

  • Sex And The City
  • Desperate Housewives
  • Howard Stern

Is it any wonder that so many are confused by all the misinformation that abounds?

We really are making sex more about recreation than relationship and making it the reason for relationship instead of the result of relationship.

In the e-book, "How To Be Wanted For a Lifetime of Nights and Not Just a Night of a Lifetime," we show the reader a unique relationships and love.

The reader will learn:

  • Why HEAT (sex) should be the result of relationship instead of the reason for relationship
  • Why living for the moment can cost you the lifetime
  • Why being seduced by an over-emphasis on the bedroom and the body is hurting us
  • Why so many are getting "burned by the heat"
  • Why "tuning in" will rock your world far more than "turning on" every time
  • The difference between the fire that warms and the fire that burns
  • Why living for the longing of the heart is better than chasing the desires of the body
  • Why minimizing the value we place on our body is maximizing the brokenness of our relationships and our lives

How To Be Wanted For a Lifetime of Nights
and Not Just a Night of a Lifetime


Find out for yourself why chasing desire and night of a lifetime relationships has so many living for the moment but missing the lifetime.

Now a PDF E-book available for immediate download

BEAUTY Also Wears Clothes


101 Reflections On Becoming What Others
LOOK FOR in Life and Relationships,
Not Just What They

This latest e-book by Stanley Leffew included FREE with above e-book package FOR A LIMITED TIME


The purpose of this site and our ebook, is to assist us all in moving up to the next level in our personal and relational lives. Pornography, sexual experience and making heat more about recreation than relationship hasn't met that need.

More great resources about heat, pornography and sexual sanity in life are listed below for your benefit.

Take this information and apply it to your life. If you can learn to live by the principles found in this site and our ebook, you will be on your way to navigating better relationships.


Someday, I hope that you too will be able to engrave "My FOUR-H Bride/Groom" into something signifying your relationship.

Visit the "Contact Us" page and drop me a line if you do.


There are many people struggling with pornography and sexual addictions. Many wives are finding their spouses struggling with entrapment in these chains. Here are some sites that specialize in helping those caught in this web.

Pure Life
Pure Intimacy
WiseChoice- Use Internet Filtering to get proactive and block the stuff from your computer

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